Advice To Nieces
I kept on writing blog posts because it will leave my footprints, even when I grow old with Parkinson’s. At least the later generations if and if they may, read it.
I know I wasn’t a good uncle to say the least. Just to let them know they can come to me if they need a listener. Though I don’t communicate much with them in recent years… I want to tell them… here’s the list of things I would say to them.
First of all, never attempt to change anything about yourself for an opposite sex. If he loves or likes you, he wouldn’t even want to change a thing. Moreover don’t ever demand a boy to change himself just for you. Men will always be men.
Just discard any guy who belittles you. Tell you that you are unworthy enough nor forbids you from doing something you want to. No one and not even your parents should dictate what your hopes and dreams. You live for your own.
Always, remember that you have parents. Cherish them when they still alive and kicking. They may not be perfect but they are still your parents. When you are at my age you would want to spend more time with them. Not just at their deathbed.
When it comes to guys, do not tolerate any form of abuse, be it physical or emotional. If it happens, you know who you can talk to. There’s always two way to settle it. Civilized ways or the wild wild west way.
And my sweety, as long as you are below 21 you are subject to parents approval. You haven’t get the golden key so do listen to their words.
By the way, your body belongs to you and it is absolute…I mean ABSOLUTELY acceptable to say NO to things that you don’t feel comfortable doing. Especially when it comes sexual matters. There’s no point stopping you but I just want you to know that you need to take ownership of your body. Don’t let any guys to pressure you into doing anything.
You are not allowed to smoke cigarettes. You are not allowed to do any other drugs. You are also not allowed to sleep over at the guy’s place until you are 18. I want you to stay abstinence from sex and keep your virginity until at least 18. That because I don’t trust your judgement on who deserves you to give your heart or virginity to. If you insist to lose it before then, please…PLEASE use protection. If the boy don’t get protection, it’s better to get rid of him.
Remember, you will always be forever my niece that I babysit when you are small. Always remember that you can always come to talk to me.
Love,
Uncle Dale
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