Apr 21, 2010

Sell Me Marriage

frostier / Thoughts, Rants and Musings / Marriage, relationship, wedding / 2 Comments

We will come to a phase in life when people around you are taking the plunge. A couple taking their vows to each other. Marriage is like a contract that bestow on two for their rest of their life. Yet little did we know that the contract can be void through term called ‘divorce’.

With the divorce rate skyrocketing and faster than these people getting married, it seems to me that the wedding constitution no longer being a matter that we hold sacred anymore.

Why do we get marry?
The answers to the question usually as follows:-

1. family obligation as to have a heir to their family name.
2. In Malaysia, if the child were to born before the marriage constitution, they well will be define as ‘Anak Haram’ or ‘Anak Luar Nikah’?
3. family value and tradition to get married
4. to give the wife (usually) a place in the family aka status
5. because we are in love.. (meh)
6. our religion doesn’t allow sex before marriage so it is a sin. Fornication!!

What is marriage?
In the Christianity point of view, it is regarded as instituted and ordained by God for the lifelong relationship between one man as husband and one woman as wife, and is to be “held in honor among all….”[Heb. 13:4]

Families or just the two of us?
In the Chinese culture here, the marriage is not just between the man and woman. It involves both side of the families. Usually these include the typical traditions of the marriage where the wedding dinner is the highlight of the day.

Family members from far and near are invited to participate in the wedding dinner. The showcase in front of not hundred but thousand of people. The bigger the family, the greater the wedding dinner is.

That is not the end of it. The expansion of the family. An addition to the family – the in-laws. Everyone come from different background and if cross cultural? Worse. What happened if the other family members are the conservative type where as your family members are the open and weird ones? Scenes from meet the parents appear at the back of my mind as I typing this.

Commitment, responsibility and role
When it comes to love and marriage, many people will ended up cold feet. Today, we are living in an instant world. A world of use-and-throw, disposable, pakai buang society. It is much easier to go to the local pubs or clubs and pick up for a One Night Stand.

On the last Sunday, I was ironing my clothes when my mom told me that I should get wife. I asked her, Why? Her reply was simple. So she can do the ironing for you. Then this strikes me and I told her, “Why would I want a wife just to wash, iron, food preparing and entertainment when I can have it by myself or sourcing it outside? I don’t see the point. Really.

Nonetheless, it was hard to convince her otherwise as she had her own set of opinions. I simply ignore her later to continue with my ironing.

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