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Indeed said a materialistic world is a realistic world. Sad to say. Not many people have faith in recent times. I guess that time have changed that everyone become selfish themselves. Who would be bother to take up this altruism anymore?

It wasn’t long when I encounter few of it. Be it part of relationship, courtship or anything. How to put it in a context that is easy to digest? By telling stories it would seems the best way.

A friend of mine once told me that if he can’t get a trophy wife, he rather get a rich… and he meant super rich wife to compensate his dream. Well he said that if the wife is not rich, at least she is good looking then he won’t be this upset. While at it, another friend of mine ended up with one of the wealthy man’s daughter. He had only one child – the daughter. My friend make it to be part of the family and now, he seems to be on throne. Had all the money to spare.

Not quite a distance, my mom told me of a cousin. This cousin of mine married a girl whom she is also the only child. The wife had only single parent – the mother. When his mother-in-law passed away, he by default inherited a large sum of wealth. Basically in this case is the properties the mother-in-law owned.

Just yesterday when I was at my uncle’s place. The relatives was talking about the cousin’s new girlfriend whom happened to be wealthy. She got the money through the divorce’s support fee. These relatives of mine were suggesting to him to aim for her money. Secondly, she still had some figure to boot. So it was like win-win for him.

To put my case strong, my aunt once told her niece that to consider that doctor for the reason being the doctor loves her. Even the age gap were like 10 years apart, she still thinks that the man will be able to support her living and will have a better lifestyles.

When someone mother said that to qualify a candidate for the husband and boyfriend is through the man’s family wealth, I personally dismay at the thought of it. I do agree that having certain wealth is indeed important but these wealth can be accumulate over time. Given alone that both couple can work together to have their own savings.

Nonetheless, if tomorrow a girl come up to me and tells me to marry her. I would also look at her background. If she is the only child? Rich?

So, how about you? Let say that you are 23 this year. A man in his 36 propose to you with a 8k diamond ring (which doesn’t even look like 8k), would you consider marrying the guy? (Note: you just gone out on a date with him for 2 months)

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As I grew up listening to Malay songs from artist like 4u2c, Ella and those “dangdut” style like Pisau Cukur and etc, I had a limited exposure on the Chinese songs nor English songs until when I begin to listen to Michael Jackson’s You Are Not Alone. Thanks to my mom who brought back the Thriller Music Video for me to watch.

Jeff Chang - Generosity

Then when I got into my high school, I got myself a auto-reverse playback Walkman cassette player from Sony. I look around for the album to listen to. Then I bought Jacky Cheung’s “我等到花儿也谢了“ for my sister while I still looking for some Chinese songs to listen to. That’s when I begin to search for my sister’s collection and stumbled upon Jeff Chang’s Generosity (寬容). My sister actually took it of from my brother’s car back then.

Being a person whom is English educated and does not know how to read the Chinese, there was some English quote from the album itself. It stated that “Love Is Generosity”.

“True Love Does Not Mean Possion or Jealousy.”

“to love and to be loved are both blessedness. When you’re in love, remember to show more generosity to each other”

In response to that giving up, I can only say that it is not whether giving up or not. It is just the matter of time when we know that possession does not simply mean love. It should means knowing when to let go.

Yes, we might try and do all our means to sustain it but when it is time to let it go then we should let it go. We can rant or curse about the hurtful love that we are going through but in the end, we should let it go. It is hard to do. More easily said than being done.

After all, like I told the friend that she in the end will survive. Just live the life you always wanted. The right man will come.

Living in this world just allows us to experience the life, old, sick and death cycle. Experiencing the pain, emotional ride of our life. At least I can tell people I’ve signed the guestbook. Or collected the stamps at that particular stage of life.

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Thoughts, Rants and Musings Generosity, giving up, love, relationship

It took me less than 2 week or so to complete this read. It is a simple easy read. Not too harsh, too deep and too tough to come by. But despite the work, it gives me the effect of bittersweet love. How the author, Tony Parsons inject the emotions into the pages I flipped through slowly.

The storyline was almost predictable but I find myself chasing through the pages till the very last end of it. It was a story about Harry Silver, a man who experiences loss in life. Job. Separation from wife. Death of a father. Upbringing a son. Welcoming a new love in life.

Tony Parsons - Man and Boy

It reflect on the modern man today. The types you tend to see around. I don’t know much about this author but tend to get to see his novels around. Sort of a “lad lit” according to the bookstores. Well, I kind of like this book. Perhaps should I get a sequel from this, “Man and Wife”?

Highly recommended for those who like simple words and to understand todays men. Enough said… just read it.

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that of life is not just about you and me. There are compromising of the other beings. So you decided to move on. There are global issues to take care about. Much bigger and wider picture like child abuse, child trafficking and prostitution. Stuff that not just you and I alone.

Just when you think you have set the mindset clear. As crystal clear as it can be. When we think that way, life hit you with the most unimaginable. It was way beyond my comprehension. Behold!

When you think that life can be so good, even singlehood. Even being alone, single is good enough. That I can survive alone. Without someone.

So I used to think that way until …

someone knocking on my window pane
someone plucking the string of the cello
someone wishes you good night
someone remind you of your meals
someone being angry at you for small thing

and when you had that someone, it is just good enough not to have the whole world but that someone.

Cello

then just when there is someone…

who is opening the door to home
who is playing your favorite song
who is going to wishes you good morning
who is dining with you
who forgive of your everything

you ended with nothing but no one.

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“v realy break dy”

This is the message I saw this morning. I received as early of seven something. If it was me last time, I would be very excited and called her up. First thing I need to know was how I can be of help to assist her in solving the matter. Not me. Not today.

I was no longer a little over bothered by this matter. Even though I knew that I should be responsible about it. Not that really I was the third party but …

on the other hand, there won’t be any more ice at the North Pole this year. North Pole is melting.

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When Everything Fails life, relationship