The Sleeping Arrangement
I came upon an interesting debate. Couldn’t help it but to share with you guys here. What’s your thought about this? I mean serious, if you are the father to a daughter and a father to the son makes a lot different.
It could be “my son wanted by the ladies” as compared to “fuck, my daughter sleeps around”.
Gchatting with Hercules today about his girlfriend Deianira’s impending NYE visit to his parents’ house. Check out the ensuing debate over sleeping arrangements and weigh in with your thoughts.
Me: Do you two sleep in the same bed when in your parents’ house?
Hercules: This is the first time here together. We’re going to, yeah.
Me: Really? She’s cool with that? Your rents are too?
Hercules: Mom suggested it.
Me: Haaa. Wow.
Hercules: We’re 29 and 30.
Me: When I was with Her, She never would at my house. And ditto at Hers.
Hercules: This isn’t the 1950s.
Me: Yeah, but if you went to Deianira’s house, you’d feel okay sleeping in her dad’s house with her father THERE?
Hercules: I 100% would. We’re not fooling anyone.
Me: Give the appearance at least. It’s the man’s daughter.
Hercules: Appearance of what? Again, this isn’t the 1950s
Me: That you’re respectful. It’s not about the year.
Hercules: How is that disrespectful? I’m not going to be fucking her against the wall.
Me: Don’t fuck a man’s daughter in his own house. While he’s in the other room, if you’re sleeping together, that’s ALL he’ll think about.
Hercules: There’s a difference between sharing a bed and having sex.
Me: Dude. If I have a daughter and she’s however old, when she brings home her boyfriend, the first thing I’ll think is “You’re fucking my daughter.”
Hercules: Sure. Agreed.
Me: And I sure as shit don’t wanna know you’re sleeping together in my house. So respect in that sense. Give me peace of mind while you’re a guest in my home.
Hercules: When I go to Deianira’s, if she says we should sleep in the same room, I’ll sleep in the same room. It’s her call to make.
Me: An ex and I slept in the same bed once or twice at the folks. It was weird to wake up in the morning and leave the bedroom together; my parents likely wondering “did they fuck?”
Hercules: So someone’s fucking your daughter. Get over it. You’ve fucked plenty of daughters in your day. Look, when she’s in high school? No, I wouldn’t want her sharing a bed.
Me: Ha. Then what’s the cut off? College? After college?
Hercules: Depends on how serious the relationship is. But, broadly, yeah, after college, I don’t think a father should remain delusional like that.
Me: So you’re okay with it provided the relationship is serious? It’s not delusional! It’s a peace of mind thing.
Hercules: It is delusional. Stop pretending your daughter isn’t having sex. Peace of mind will come when you accept that your daughter is having sex. There’s a SERIOUS psychosis involved if the idea of your 30-year-old daughter, or even 24-year-old one, having sex bothers you.
Me: For YOU. For the rest of the world that doesn’t think in absolutes, a little mystery goes a long way. I didn’t say bothered. I just don’t want it to happen in his home. Or, my home. Of course she’s fucking.
Hercules: Exactly. Of course she’s fucking. What’s the difference where it happens? Do I want to hear it? No. Do I want to see any physical evidence? No.
Me: But why do you have to rub his face in it? That’s where we differ. You have access to that vagina 99% of the time. Give it a break while you’re in her pops’ home.
Hercules: Rub what in his face? That his daughter is doing what every single adult in the world does? I’m not going to cater to some old man’s nostalgic delusions.
Me: Man, you are so pragmatic. Other people view it differently than you do. And that doesn’t make them delusional. Or psychotic. Just as you’re not delusional for your belief.
Hercules: The only reason a father would be bothered, or upset, or even thinking about his adult daughter’s sex life is if he still pictures her as some innocent little girl. But if she’s on her own, she’s on her own.
Me: Dude, every dad thinks of his daughter as innocent.
Hercules: And that’s fine, to a point.
Me: That’s part of being a parent.
Hercules: I’m going to be overprotective as fuck when my daughter’s 16. But when she’s 25, I’m not going to lie to myself. I’m just going to pray she’s not a slut.
Me: I cannot wait until you have a girl.
Hercules: Point is, I leave it up to whoever’s hosting to determine the sleeping arrangement. If Deianira says we should sleep in the same bed at her place, that’s all I care about.
Whose stance do you agree with? Reply if you can; if not reblog with your answer, since Tumblr fucking blows and won’t let me pose this as an “official” question.
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